I need your help everyone its a girl relationship problem... I have to post it here..

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Sorry guys, but he is hooked...........overzealously hooked.....he is going to give the Valentine card and pictures, tape it to the locker, no matter what everyone says is the wrong thing to do.............he has to make his own bed........for my final advice, there is nothing worse than making a female UNCOMFORTABLE.........in any situation, not just this...............

Good morning all..............and Happy Valentine's Day (tomorrow)...........
 
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Well....I do admit thta I like her tooo much.... she told me she was sorry for what she did....but I still need to know if she still had well those feelingss she had for because it seems she doesnt like me anymore or never liked me in the first place from what I think about it now...
 

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If she thinks of you in the dreaded "friend" zone then it is all for naught my friend....please, please trust all of us in this.....I have been thru it and many, many others on this board. Just roll with the punches and take life one step at a time....Winston Churchill said something to the effect: "It is a mistake to look to far in the future, the chain of destiny is formed one link at a time........"
 
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jcz1987 said:
Well....I do admit thta I like her tooo much.... she told me she was sorry for what she did....but I still need to know if she still had well those feelingss she had for because it seems she doesnt like me anymore or never liked me in the first place from what I think about it now...
I'm going to have to side with everyone else. If you really want to find out her feelings, this is not the way to go about it. You're going to end ostrasizing her and it's not going give her a chance to realize whether she has feelings for you or not. And it's hard not to do something to evoke a reaction from her, but if you want to TRULY find out her feelings, just be casual frineds and let her make the next move if she wants to; if she doesn't you've got your answer.

I agree with Kirby completely. You shouldn't have to do all that to evoke someone to feel a certain way.


And anyway, irregardless of what you do and whatever the outcome is, you're going to remember this years from now and laugh about this whole thing. It's a learning experience; good luck.

Sean
 
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MyHarley said:
The end result you are searching for is not this..........that's why you play along.

I think maturity is an attribute you should be looking for in your females.......regardless of age...........

Just call me Dr. Phyllis...........I'll tell you what you don't want to hear....... [:D]
Yeah, I'm just playing around Lisha. In person, I am very calm and gentle, and one of the last guys on Earth to ever lose his cool. And in my age range, there is a mix of girls and women available...personally, I'm looking for a woman.
 
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Dude, you were once addicted to her ass, couldn't live w/o it and now you want to kick the same ass. [?|] You made me laugh. But it is true though. What we all get is a package called "LOVE".
Lol, what? I don't think I've ever posted about girl problems on this forum and certainly not in this thread.

Justin is doing that thing where he puts the girl up on a pedestal in his own head, and he's making her feel and seem soooo special that she thinks she's better than him, so she just keeps rejecting him.

Justin, we know it's hard, but just chill out. No matter how special this girl is to you, they're all just people. You gotta stop giving her things and just go up to her and ask her out on a date (on Valentine's Day, and NO gifts...let yourself be her gift). It will be hard and you will be lame, but you just gotta do it. If she says yes, we're all happy for you. If she says no, it will hurt for a bit, but you'll get over her and you'll move on. In the position of guys, the key for us is to just keep swinging the bat and eventually you'll hit the ball.
 

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Let's do some clarification on this board for all you guys.................there is a huge difference in being a man, standing up and taking care of your family like a man.......I am a firm believer that the man should be the head of the household......as long as you are qualified........a man who makes decisions for the family in what is best for the family and not make decisions for his own personal use or gain.........a man should stand up for what he feels the way things should be........I wholeheartedly agree..........but it is true, men confuse being an asshole and a man being strong..........there is a huge difference..........and here is another female secret..............all females want the male to be the strong one, if you know what you're doing.........females need to feel secure, safe, protected, that's our nature.........when she goes to bed at night and feels those things, the next morning when she awakens starts a new beautiful day........the question to ask yourself..........am I qualified to be the lead..........some people are born followers and some people are born leaders............which one are you......being a leader in the family is not the same as being a leader in your job......don't confuse the two.......

Here's another thought............do you become the child in the relationship.......think about it, if you are or become the child in the relationship, how can you be the strong one?????

One more............know when to pick your battles..........everything is not worth fighting for.........if you pick at everything and some really petty things, it lessens everything........

There will be a test tomorrow............
My wife and I met when I was in college and she was senior in high school, we have been married 27 years now. In the early stages of our relationship I moved away and she decided to "play the filed". Three years later I won her back by letting her go three years eariler. She discovered I was the strong one, when I accepted that I was indeed able to survive without her, having smothered her before, and moved on. This was hard to do however like Lisha says, when she saw my strength she wanted to be with me...and has been ever since [headbang]
 
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Interesting story, Big D. How did you know she was right for you after she was "playing the field" for three years and then you both got back together? What was it that made you know she was, and always will be, the one?
 

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Just a connect, as weird as it may sound when I met her I was impressed with her mind more than anything. She is a high acheiver, has a degree in Math with a 4.0 through her college career. She was a TA at Washington State University whle working on her Masters degree and is now a Programs Systems Analyst.

I on the other I hand was a laborer and student at the time working with my hands. I was studying Law and when she and I would meet up to do school work together we just clicked!

I moved to Alaska and we seperated (I wanted to maintain our relationship and pledge our love for each other, she wanted some distance. I told her that we were meant to be and it would work out. Like I said I was clingy and felt at the time dependant on her.) When I moved back to So. Cal. three years later, where we had met we dated a few times but I was not dependant any longer. She liked that and the rest is history!
 
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Well Im jsut giving her the card and CD thats all..... nothing else more.... Its something thats coming from me....Well lets hope I can get through this day of hell...
 
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I gave her the gift. I taped it on her locker witha small bag of candy.... she went up to me.... hugged me and told me thanks alot and she wanted to hang out with me soon again to rebuild what started..... Now Im just giving time to see what happnes now... Im wonderign where I should take her this weekend... hmmmm
 
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jcz1987 said:
I gave her the gift. I taped it on her locker witha small bag of candy.... she went up to me.... hugged me and told me thanks alot and she wanted to hang out with me soon again to rebuild what started..... Now Im just giving time to see what happnes now... Im wonderign where I should take her this weekend... hmmmm
you are so funny.........I love how you said you're just giving her time and that time already started with weekend plans.........you're killing me..... [clap]

good luck
 


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